Updates, more updates and a dilemma

Hi all! So I promised updates and here they are.



Bathroom- The goal was to have the tub installed and functioning by Sunday afternoon. It is now Tuesday afternoon and when you walk into my bathroom you can see straight down into the crawl space. Why? When the tub was pulled out we discovered several rotting beams in the walls and also on the floor. Instead of replacing them on Sunday Justin "had" to spend the afternoon with his friend Dave while I was at his fiance's shower. After work yesterday Justin did as much as he could but there is still a lot left to do before getting a tub. Complete bathroom in two weeks? Riiiiiiiiiiiight!!!



Pool- We've attempted to get Madison in the pool several times but it was a little chilly. Instead of a happy preschooler splashing around it looked like a cat fighting to stay out of the water. At one point she was just about sitting on my head to stay high and dry! Yesterday after much effort she got in and stayed in for 2 1/2 hours until I dragged her out!!!! Yay! Mental note - Do NOT put pressure on the side of the pool 'cause it will fold over and let the water out!



Baby- No c-section date but everything is going well. I think she has dropped and if anyone else tells me how big I've gotten all of the sudden at that I don't look only 32 weeks I may scream! I also just want to make a note here that the name Stella was chosen way before it became trendy. I care more about liking my kids' names than their popularity BUT this time around I thought I found something that was different without being weird. If you haven't heard Tori Spelling had a little girl yesterday and named her Stella and I just feel the name getting trendier by the second!



Now for the dilemma with Madison. When we got to school she went over to play with two little girls who were sitting on a bench. There was plenty of space for Madison but the one little girl said "You can't sit here. You aren't cool enough to be in our club." Madison stood there staring at them on the verge of tears not knowing what to do. She is THREE! My little girl should not have to deal with rejection already! Anyway I fought the urge to yank the little girl out of the seat by her pigtails and tell her how "not nice" she had been but I decided to call Madison over instead. I asked her what was going on. Her response was that "Barbie (real name hidden) isn't my friend. She doesn't like me anymore". She then proceeded to cling to me with her head on my shoulder. At this point I'm not sure who was more crushed. It took all I had not to run away with Madison in tow and spend the day making her feel super special. I decided to remind her how smart, friendly and beautiful she is. I then told her that what the girl did was not nice and when people aren't nice like that they are not good friends. Did she get it? I'm not really sure 'cause she is only three and I sometimes have trouble remembering that she is still a baby. I asked her if she saw any kids in the class that are fun to play with and she pointed out her little buddy Connor. I asked her if Connor was nice to her and she said "Yes, mommy he's my friend!" If fought the urge to just hold her all day and put her down. She ran off to play with him as happy as could be. There is only 1 day left of school so I decided to not mention it to the teacher. The mom of the little brat also works at the school and is super sweet. I know she would be crushed if she knew what her daughter was doing ans one of her older sisters (she is the youngest of 6 so obviously we know where she learned this) is a student of mine. Bottom line is if there were more time in school left I would mention it but for one more day what will be solved? I did check on Madison throughout the say and she was fine. When I picked her up she mentioned that this girl was not her friend but she had others so she did not forget. Madison even had me call Justin at work so she could tell him how this girl was no longer her friend.

I was just wondering what you would have done in this situation? I feel like what I said to Madison was a way to make her feel better about herself and to help her develop coping skills. Unfortunately Mommy will not always be there to step in so the next best thing will be to have a daughter strong enough to deal with these situations on her own. BUUUUUUUUT Did I mention that she is only THREE? I know kids can be mean but knowing my daughter has to learn this at such an early age is really heartbreaking. Oh well enough rambling. Let me know what you think.